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Tackling the Thrift Store

0 · Apr 10, 2014 ·

My last couple days have been filled with thrift store shopping… which I absolutely love!  The thrill of the hunt gets me every time.  And just because something is cheap, doesn’t mean I can’t find it cheaper.  I might just take a little too much pride in scoring a great deal.  These golden pots were a thrifty steal… can’t wait to fill them with blooms!

Gold Planters | The Day's Design

I went to a total of 8 stores to score the number of little pots I needed for my client’s next project.  I realize not everyone has that much time (that’s why you hire me!), so I want to share a little strategy with you about thrift store shopping, because not all stores are created equal.

So, how should you tackle the thrifty madness?

My first piece of advice – steer away from the “name brand” or chain thrift stores.  Goodwill may have the name, but it doesn’t deliver the goods.  Ditto to Salvation Army.  For the most part, I don’t waste my time, at least not if I’m looking for vintagy and décor type items.  Clothing might be another story.  But these stores I feel are over-shopped, so you have to be there the instant something is donated to snatch it up.  And even then, I’m not always willing to pay their prices.

Look for less known stores, which are typically less shopped and I usually score better deals.  In Grand Rapids there’s a Bethany Thrift Store or the Pine Rest Thrift Store – proceeds go to each of these organizations, and while they’re still located on the main hub of Grand Rapids, people know less about them which benefits me greatly.

Secondly, know the difference between a thrift store and antique store.  That sounds obvious, but with the turn “vintage” coming into play, this line has become clouded.  Places are popping up with titles such as estate sale warehouses.  Some are gold mines other, not so much.  Stores like this carry items ranging anywhere from collectable antiques to shampoo and Beanie Babies.  Places that claim to cater more to antique collectors are generally more expensive than those with more of a flea market sales pitch.

Stores like these also tend to have separate booths and not all booths are created equal either.  Booths are owned by different vendors, who all having different items and pricing strategy.  And occasionally a booth or two might be offering additional discounts, so pay attention to those hand-written signs.

No matter what the store, I recommend shopping on week days.  Usually there are a few less people milling about the store, which means I don’t have to make the split second buying decision.  There’s nothing worse than going back to grab your treasure, only to find someone else bought it out from underneath you.  But check their store hours, some have certain days of the week that they aren’t open or they may close earlier than your typical retailers.

Bring along your imagination along for the ride!  Items that look like junk when thrown together with other junk might actually be cool in the right setting.  Try to envision pieces in your home or with your event décor.  And if the price is right, paint can go a long way.  Love the shape of a vase but not the color – spray paint is your best friend!  And that ugly chair over there can be reupholstered for much less than buying new.  Don’t be afraid to get creative.

Any other tips or tricks?  I’d love to hear your thrifting strategies!

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Planning Your Dreams

0 · Apr 7, 2014 ·

Gold, Aqua and Pink bouquet | The Day's Design | Ashley Slater Photography

When I gave my business a name back in fall of 2011, I had this ridiculous notion that by somehow having a name and business cards, people would begin to take me seriously and business would just come to my doorstep.  Ha… what was I thinking???

Fast forward 3 years now and I have such a greater understanding of business, life and dreams and how they’re all intertwined.  Summer of 2012 was when I really began to put myself out there and make this dream my career and by fall 2012 it became abundantly clear that if I wanted to really make this work, I could no longer also work a full time job.  Leap of faith = quit my full time job.

Now all of this is fine and dandy, I had a plan – a real life business plan, I had goals and a little bit of a path cleared out to make it happen.  I even had a 5 year dream in place of where I’d really like my business to be.

However, if you never change anything, you’ll never grow and make these dreams a reality.  It’s great to have a plan, but you also have to follow that plan.  This is where I am now.  I’m sitting here telling myself that eventually “this” is how I’d like my business to be.  And eventually I’d like to add such-and-such additional services. It’s been over a year since I’ve been voicing thoughts and ideas out loud with no action to move forward. If I keep doing exactly what I’m doing right now, these ideas will never happen.  Umm… reality check please!

Same rules apply for so many aspects of life.  In your job, in your relationships and where you want life to take you.  Sure there are unexpected bumps along the way, but if you never change anything in your present, how can you just expect that the future will be brighter?  You have to work for something bigger.  Set goals and accomplish things.

So it’s Monday and time for a fresh start.  I’m pushing forward and going to MAKE my dreams come true!  What are you doing today?

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And the gorgeous blooms above were put together by yours truly and photographed by Ashley Slater Photography, thanks love!!

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At the Heart of Business

0 · Apr 3, 2014 ·

There’s a line at the beginning of Dirty Dancing where Mr. Houseman is bragging a little about his daughters (if you’ve never watched Dirty Dancing – you can stop reading this right now, we are no longer friends!)

“My Baby is going to change the world”

“And what are you going to do?” (referring to Lisa)

“Oh Lisa is going to decorate it.”

Seems pretty shallow and materialistic, right?  Baby is going into the Peace Corps, and Lisa will decorate.  Sometimes I feel like Lisa.  I sit around all day looking at pretty inspiration, flowers, dresses and linen samples.  I dream up cake ideas and research invitations options. Am I simply feeding an attitude of discontentment and always wanting more?  Am I contributing to this sour mindset that seems to drive the wedding industry causing people to spend insane amounts of money on ONE day? And does what I’m doing actually matter?

It’s the motivation behind what I do that actually matters.  So yes, what I’m doing matters.  But the key is not to lose focus on what makes you get out of bed each day, makes you talk to another bride and then add some gorgeous blooms to a vase.  I am certainly not trying to get rich and I want people to be a peace with their spending decisions.

Meet Gretta.  She’s the reason I need to pay the bills, work from home and find balance between wedding work and life.

Gretta James | Ashley Slater Photography

Photo by Ashley Slater Photography

But even before she came into existence, I knew that I wanted to be a part of the wedding industry.  So what’s so special about the wedding industry, you ask?  Everything – it’s magic.  As a little girl I dreamt up endless wedding scenarios for myself, purple flowers, sheer tents, little white chapels and dresses with puffy sleeves (hey, I’m a product of the 80’s!).  My mother and aunts kept me surrounded by paint swatches, fabric samples and all things interior design.  So naturally, creative energies surrounded me, they bring me home.  There’s nothing wrong with adding beauty to your surroundings.

However, as I’ve grown, it’s also this concept of “home” that drives me.  My family is amazing, crazy, but amazing. Not everyone gets to be a part of something like my family and I feel sad for them. If you’ve ever watched While You Were Sleeping, that crazy, overly involved, obnoxiously loud but always has each other’s back type family is the closest I can come to describing mine. This mashed up conversation totally hits home.  So in the same way, I want to help create the start of family.  I love being a part of the wedding celebration because it’s the beginning of something new, a new family, a new journey and it should be a happy (somewhat stress free) one.  Being a part of that is awesome!

And after my own wedding, I knew the importance of my job even more.  I was one stressed out, frazzled bride who was barely able to enjoy her wedding day.  I simple cannot handle the thought of you making the same mistake.  The beauty in the wedding day is the vows, love and commitment shared with family and friends.

It’s easy to become obsessed with the publicity, competition, Facebook fans and making each event better than the one before.  But sometimes we need to step back, stop the comparison, and focus on what matters most.  This is the heart of my business.

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What Would Happen?

0 · Mar 28, 2014 ·

Think back to the start of your last relationship.  When you met him, did you instantly feel sparks?  Where there butterflies in your tummy with just the whisper of his name and did you fall to sleep each night with memories of your last kiss warming your lips?

Holding Hands | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Picture by Hetler Photography

Remember just walking around with a silly grin on your face for no real reason at all?  Oh and how you simply couldn’t wait until you could meet again.  You want to yell from the rooftops, twirl in the streets and tell every stranger that passes by – you’re in love!

When you have such an amazing relationship you want everyone to know, right?  You want to share it with the world!

What if we were that enthusiastic about God?  What if we couldn’t keep from smiling because of this great gift he has given us?  If we shared our relationship with every stranger that passed by… what would happen?  Would joy be contagious, cause dancing, celebration or laughter?  Would we start a revolution?  Would the world ever be the same?

What would happen?

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Bloom

0 · Mar 27, 2014 ·

One morning I woke up to a completely out of the blue email from dear Ashley, of Ashley Slater Photography.  She wanted to work with me sometime.  Me?  Yes, me!  A friendship quickly blossomed between the two of us as we realized our similar interests – weddings, Disney movies, babies and God – it was as if we were destine to become friends.

The amount of friendships that have blossomed in similar such manor since I have taken the plunge into the wedding industry has quite remarkable.  In fact, it has been one of my favorite yet most unexpected parts of this journey.

Have you ever read someone’s online profile and just know the two of you would be friends?  It happens, almost like in internet dating. Almost.

When Ashley told me about this workshop that she was dreaming up, her excitement was absolutely contagious.  And then she told me that she was partnered with Michaela and I just knew something fabulous was in the works and I needed to be a part!  I haven’t met this California girl yet, but I’m certain our virtual friendship will become something more when I see her face in June.

Gold & Pink flowers | The Day's Design | Ashley Slater Photography

Bloom | The Workshop is the dream turned reality coming to West Michigan.  And while the only credit I can take is adding some pretty petals to their website, I’m so excited for these ladies and I cannot wait for them to share their creative talents and business strategies with all of you.   Yes, you! You – the attendees that I have not met yet, but will see more of my flowers throughout that day.  You – sitting there thinking you wish you knew how to photograph and style some gorgeous content for your blog. You – the one who’s thinking they might actually take the plunge and start a blog or another completely awesome creative business. Or you – you who needs a big hug and a team of creatives to lean on as your journey through life.

Registration opened TODAY… go grab a seat!  Or read a little more from the geniuses behind the workshop, Ashley and Michaela.

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Capturing the Now

0 · Mar 21, 2014 ·

As if life isn’t busy enough on its own, this week I’ve been dealing with a sick baby and then of course I found myself battling the bug a day later.  On the bright side, I did get to cancel my appointment to have my wisdom teeth removed… silver lining, right?

Do you feel like you’re just battling through life, rather than living it?  There are some days that I just can’t get this notion out of my mind – it’s as if I’m just surviving rather than actually living.  We just have to push through until we recover, surviving until the next paycheck, making it work until we can afford something better – always looking to the future.  But what about the now?

While looking to the future is what gives us hope, and I truly believe that that’s hugely necessary and helps us persevere, however, I do believe that we need to search for some contentment and acceptance of the “now”.

I heard through the grapevine that yesterday was National Happiness Day.  And while I completely wonder who determines these things, I also was inspired by the number of people who celebrated it, they celebrated being happy – now.  I love that idea!

And I have a couple of projects up my sleeves that do just that…. they celebrate us, life, being a woman and preserving through the hardships.

Project #1 I’ve already told you about.  The Romance Shoot is a great way to pamper yourself and find an excuse to feel pretty.  I’ve teamed up with Hetler Photography and Helena Young to design a soft and romantic backdrop for these photo sessions, while their job is to make you feel gorgeous and then capture that magic.  The original idea was to make this solely a boudoir marathon, but then we thought women don’t need to wear lingerie to feel pretty.  Sometimes sexy is in the confidence to just be you.  So we opened these sessions up to anyone, maternity, boudoir or whatever reason you might like to have your beauty captured.  Sometimes women need to be reminded that they are beautiful.

Project #2 is something for me.  Yup, I’m being selfish on this one, because I can.  It involves my love of beautiful blooms and surrounding myself with them.  I’ll share more on this later.

Project #3 is something special for someone I don’t even know yet.  My version of a pay-it-forward.  Details are still in the works, but I might need a little bit of help bringing this crazy idea of mine to life.  That was about as clear as mud, right?  Let’s just say that if you have a heart for hospitality and are in the creative/wedding industry, we might want to chat.

Project #4 is my small role in Bloom | The Workshop.  I love helping other creatives and watching others succeed.  So being a part of this creative workshop is extremely exciting to me as I want to see others blossom and grow.

Winter Inspiration | The Day's Design | Heather Cisler Photography

Last January I put together a small photo shoot showcasing some Valentine’s bouquets (you might remember it from here).  As I was putting the details together, I began thinking about a model for the shoot.  And then ultimately, I decided I could model for it.  I can make myself feel pretty once in a while, right?  So I did, blemishes, flaws, remaining baby weight and self-consciousness aside.  I didn’t want any pictures of myself until I lost those last few pounds – I was living for the future and not fully grasping the “now”.  But I’m glad I had the courage to model, because I think we all need to be reminded of our beauty once in a while.  Capture the moment we’re living in and focus a little on the now.

Happy Friday to my beautiful friends!

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Photo by Heather Cisler Photography, oh my goodness was it cold that day!!

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Everyone is “So Excited!”

0 · Mar 13, 2014 ·

Bouquet Toss | The Day's Design | Heather Cisler Photography

Photo by Heather Cisler Photography

Do you ever feel like everyone is just bursting with excitement and you just can’t seem to keep up with all of it?  Is everything really “so exciting”?  I follow a lot of people in the wedding industry across social media and on any given day there’s always someone who’s trying to build excitement and suspense about some big project that they can’t tell you about yet or something new coming soon, etc, etc.

Why is this?  It starting to annoy me… even though I’m completely guilty of this myself.

While usually I love to see others succeed and it definitely feels good to be surrounded by celebration and good news – there are definitely days I just want to scream “I don’t care!”

Here’s the truth.  Our businesses are like our babies.  We pour our hearts and souls into them.  You posted your baby’s first smiles, first steps, first time eating solid foods (or if you’re not there yet – trust me, you will… even if you claim you never want to be one of “those parents”).  As a mama and a business owner, I can tell you there are so many similarities its a little ridiculous.  So we post and brag about all of our new accomplishments and milestones.  It’s big news to us, even if the outside world might just see it as “another blog post” or “another styled shoot” or “a new service offered”.

So next time someone tries to post some super exciting news do your best to be their cheerleader and not roll your eyes.  We can do this together… go team!

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The Romance Shoot

0 · Mar 12, 2014 ·

Glamor Photography | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Dreaming of warmer weather and some romance?  Ladies, I’ve teamed teamed up with some of Grand Rapids’ finest to make you feel amazing, pampered and pretty!  Introducing “The Romance Shoot”.

Think whimsical romance, with soft colors and lots of texture in a gorgeous country landscape.  Helena DeYoung will enhance your beauty with awesome hair and make-up, and Kellie Hetler will capture it with her amazing photography.  Styling and props will be my responsibility with visions of draping curtains, a wrought iron bed, floral garlands and crowns all coming to life. Pictured is just a hint of what we have up our sleeves… although this is definitely the snowy version!

Floral Crown | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Glamor Photography | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Winter Glam Session | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Floral Crown Glamor Shoot | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Grand Rapids Glamor Shoot | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Winter Glamor Shoot | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

These sessions will take place in the warmth of May and are perfect for boudoir, maternity or anyone else who wants to feel pretty because after all, EVERY girl deserves to feel BEAUTIFUL!

Contact myself or Kellie for more details!

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I am 29!!!!

0 · Mar 6, 2014 ·

I just had that “Holy crap, I’m 29!” realization.  Now here’s the thing, I’ve been 29 now for almost 2 months but suddenly I feel like I’m 29… and next year…{gulp} I’ll be 30.

So what does this mean?  I’ve been out of high school for over 10 years.  I can’t even pretend that I understand “today’s teenager” or that I can even come close to competing with their technology and pop culture understandings.  I sound like an old lady.  And while I might try to improve upon this a touch, I’m still going to jam to my oldies radio.

On the plus side, I’m finally starting to get comfortable in my own skin.  I have figured out my dream job and while I’m still tweaking it a bit, I’m on a good, solid path.  I still love fashion – but fashion my way.  I’m a mom.  That doesn’t mean I’m going to pull out the “mom jeans” anytime soon, but it also means that I don’t feel like I need to adhere as much to the “Mean Girl” practices of high school.  And I’d like everyone to like me but that’s really not realistic.  So just stick to your guns and be who you are – I know I’m going to make someone mad along the way, they’ll get over it.

At age 29, I still don’t know everything.  Even though when I was a teenager I thought I had most of it figured out.  This morning I had to Google what an ampersand is… all I can say is thank goodness for Google, where were you when I was in school?

If only I could have told myself 10-15 years ago that all the weird, quirky and unique traits that I had would come in handy today.  Maybe I wouldn’t have tried so hard to bury them and “conform”.  Oh the lessons learned!

So here’s my 29 year old self, making some pretty for an event – or at least supervising while Rachel does all the work!  Thanks for the laugh, Eliza Jean Photography!!

Wedding Planners | The Day's Design & Sincerely Ginger | Eliza Jean Photography

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Shopping with Shelby: Vintage Plus More “Vintage Wedding”

0 · Mar 4, 2014 ·

Hey lovelies, want to go shopping?  There’s a new vintage shop in town that is just too cute!  Vintage Plus More is located on 29th Street in Grand Rapids – which is dangerously close to all of my shopping hubs, meaning I might just be stopping in there quite a bit!

The shop has been open about six months now and has started hosting monthly events.  This month’s event is all about vintage weddings and I’m so excited to announce that I will have a part!  Join me, as well as Joan from Merci Beaucoup Floral and American Honey Repurposed Furniture as we show you how to perfectly style and coordinate your next vintage party. Plus a fashion show full of vintage dresses which I personally cannot wait to see!

Thursday, March 13th (from 6:30 – 8:00) would be the perfect night to come and see this new store, have a couple of treats and get some tips on styling and planning your wedding.  Can’t wait to see you there!!

Vintage Plus More | Wedding Event | The Day's Design

This is just one of the adorable booths within the shop. I snagged this picture from their Facebook page, which you need to be sure to check out to stay up to date on details around their Vintage Wedding Event as well as new treasures being added to the shop!

Vintage Plus More “Vintage Wedding Event”

2455 29th Street SE

Grand Rapids, Michigan 49512

(616) 528-5998(616) 528-5998(616) 528-5998

Thursday, March 13th 6:30-8:00 pm

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How to Run Your Business like a 4 Year Old

0 · Mar 3, 2014 ·

Last week I had the pleasure of my niece’s company.  She’s four and it was a little challenging… okay, A LOT challenging.  There were moments of laughter, annoyance and pure amazement, just wondering how her little innocent and overly imaginative mind works (to all you moms with 2+ kids, I applaud you).

And throughout her visit I began to wonder, what would it be like if I ran my business like a four year old?

How to Run Your Business like a 4 Year Old | The Day's Design | Bradley James Photography

First off, I wouldn’t care what anyone thought of me.  I would do something simply because that’s how I want to do things, and it’s my way or the highway.  She wears hairbows with her pajamas, walks around with a laundry basket on her head and is constantly delegating tasks to me (right, wrong or otherwise!)  She dances to the beat of her own drum and just does what she loves.  May she always stay true.

Children's Photography - Running Your Business like a 4 Year Old | The Day's Design | Bradley James Photography

Additionally, I would not be scared to ask questions. Lots of them.  Every five minutes.  Knowledge is power friends.  Sometimes I feel so scared to ask questions that I never learn what I truly need to know for fear of sounding dumb.  But this is learning at its best – and yes, it can be over the top annoying at times but humor her (and humor your colleges, peers and associates – they’re only trying to better themselves).  I think people can all learn from one another.

This little lady sings her own praises and tells me when she’s good at something.  For me, this is tough.  I’ve always been taught not to be boastful or brag.  But if I don’t do any self promotion, then my talents will never be recognized.  I can’t just expect people to want to hire me out of the blue without any prior knowledge of my creativity or if I’m not willing to share my strengths.  The key here is to keep it humble and always keep in mind where your talents came from.

Hair bows | The Day's Design | Bradley James Photography

I would continue to fight for what I want.  Without complete understanding of the age difference between her and Gretta (who is 15 months), she was constantly pushing Gretta forward, trying to get her to do what she wanted.  And the same goes for the cat.  Even though it was an uphill and hopeless battle, it never stopped her.  She never saw the situation as impossible, it just meant that she had to try harder, explain herself better and possibly talk louder.

And there would be breaks for playtime.  A time to rest is desperately needed.  Give your head a break and let the creative process start all over again.

Polka Dots and Tutus | The Day's Design | Bradley James Photography

The world would constantly be filled with wonder.  Comparison wouldn’t be a thief of my time.  Life would remain fresh.

Never underestimate the power of stepping back and looking at the world through someone else’s eyes.  You never know what you might see.

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All photos of my adorable little niece are courtesy of Bradley James Photography.  I simply never tire of their gorgeous work.

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Focus on the Controllable

0 · Feb 21, 2014 ·

Kait & Jordan | The Day's Design | Chelsea Seekell Photography

Life spins out of control pretty fast.  Sometimes it seems like just stops and makes a complete 180 from where I thought it was initially headed.  And the worst part?  It’s completely out of my control!

There are so many factors and variables that I deal with on a day to day basis, that I really have no say in, that it can absolutely drive a person bonkers.  Yup, I said it BONKERS!!  Business and personal life included: the weather, my clients, no response from an email, that new event planner in town, the fact that it’s raining inside my house (yes, I’m still dealing with that!)  I can’t take it anymore!!!!

Solution: focus on the controllable.  It’s as simple as that.  Why do we spend so much time stressing and worrying about things that we have absolutely, positively no power over?

So here we go, this is how it’s all going to relate:

In business:

I’m a business owner (if you were previously unaware of this, we have some catching up to do!). I cannot make brides choose certain packages or services.  I cannot make them work with myself or any other vendor.  I have no say in whether or not they even get married.  I also cannot dictate how many others decide to set up shop and also become wedding planners in my market.  There is no way to prevent them from snatching brides away from me, undercutting my pricing or even possessing more creative ability than I do.

What I can do is focus my marketing efforts towards to brides I want to attract.  I can put my best foot forward and continue to live my dream and hope others will recognize and appreciate my talents.  I can hand out lots of business cards and introduce myself to everyone I see.

In wedding planning:

Spoiler alert – something unexpected WILL happen at your wedding.  Wedding planner or not, something will not go exactly as planned.  It might be something minor, it might be a bigger deal.  You cannot control the weather, your guests, traffic, illness and the hundreds of other variables that come into play.

However, you can hire a planner and professional vendors and try to cover all your bases.  Make sure you have communicated your desires as much as possible.  You can be aware of the weather report and have umbrellas on stand-by.  Be smart about the vendors you hire, if they have horrible reviews or you don’t like them, you don’t have to work with them – even if they were recommended by a friend or relative.

In life:

Manage the manageable.  Live one day, one moment at a time.  Take nothing for granted.  I don’t know if a hurricane is going to sweep through here tomorrow and blow my house down (with this crazy Michigan weather, it wouldn’t even surprise me!).  But what I can do is prepare and make sure that I’m smart and I build my house of bricks, rather than straw.  My dining room might be completely disheveled, but I can keep the rest of my house tidy, just to save a bit of sanity.

Here I go back to this old saying “Do what you can with what you have”. Make the best of the situations and resources you have right in front of you.  I mean really, what more can you do?  Oh, and take a deep breathe… one must not forget to breath and let life happen.

Have a great weekend!  Weather permitting I’m skipping off to Traverse City to meet with a bride, yeehaw!!

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PS – And to add a touch of romance, that lovely image up there was captured by Chelsea Seekell Photography for your viewing enjoyment.  You can see the whole wedding here.

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My Valentine

0 · Feb 13, 2014 ·

Since it’s the week of love, I thought I’d share a little about my Valentine.  I’ve been trying all week to write a little about our love story… but it seems pretty lame.  I haven’t been able to come up with a post that describes us – everything that I’ve started sounds cheesy, or insincere and just isn’t us.  That “ah-hah” moment never happened for me, when I KNEW Josh was the one I was going to marry.  There was nothing special or memorable about our meet cute.  It wasn’t love at first sight, and I actually don’t even remember the specific day that we met.

I’m such a sucker for a good, sappy love story so I always thought I would be a part of one.  That’s not how life turned out.  Sometimes ordinary is okay. It’s the little things that mean the most.  We can just be us, just be together and know that we found the person that we’ll spend the next 60+ Valentine’s Days with.

So this guy has been my Valentine for 7 years now, which seems pretty crazy looking back.  This picture is a little throw back to winter 2010 (taken by Unikke Photography), and was the closest thing we had to engagement photos.  And by the way, I highly recommend having engagement pictures taken, that moment in your life is gone in a blink – capture it!

Save the Date Photo | The Day's Design | Unikke Photography

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More Negative…

0 · Feb 10, 2014 ·

“Monday Monday, can’t trust that day.” – Remember that old song by The Mammas & The Pappas?  I was thinking about it yesterday morning as I was getting ready for church.  I was thinking that I’m ready to change the lyrics to “Sunday Sunday, can’t trust that day.” It seems that Sunday has been a day of surprises for my family lately, and not necessarily pleasant ones.

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I may have mentioned this before, but my mother used to say that the Devil always had way of sneaking in on Sundays, doing everything in his power to stop you from going to church and being able to worship.  As I’ve grown up, I believe this more and more.  He tried hard, but didn’t win yesterday.

It’s funny, on Saturday I stared to write a post following up on my discussion about negativity from last Monday.  It was in fact the most popular blog post I have ever written.  The purpose of the Saturday’s draft was to dig a little deeper into why negative things impact us so much.  And there was also a little update on my current “leaky” situation.  And now today I have a new update… that post is old news.

So here we are one week from when I first discovered the drip in my ceiling which lead to the creation of the enormous hole.  My previous statement about there not being any damage other than the ceiling needs to be retracted.  It appears that new floors might in our future, however not in our budget.  In addition, we have sprung another leak.  Pretty exciting, huh?  My bathroom is now dripping too, and not from the faucet.

The point of blogging about all this?  I am not looking for sympathy or pity.  Actually, I’m laughing about the situation.  It’s kind of funny in its own twisted way.   Simply put, A LOT of the things that sneak into my life in the form of negativity have to do with comparison.  It is easy to compare yourself to someone across the internet, who seemingly has this prefect life, gorgeous office and booming business.  They have a lovely and ideal family, live in the suburbs with 2.5 children, a flashy SUV and no worries.  Their Instagram feed is meant to inspire, but actually makes you feel like less of a person since their home is spotless and you just tripped over the dog, 3 toys and spilled your generic brand coffee all over your rug.  Trust me, my house is not normally worth taking a picture of.  My desk? You haven’t seen it on social media for a reason.  I live in the real world with babies and spills and beat up old, second hand furniture.

The point is this: there is so much truth to the saying “comparison is the thief of all joy”.  Negativity is all in the interpretation.  If it makes you feel poorly about yourself, then I consider that negative – even if it isn’t something that the general public would classify in that way.

Even stranger, all of this was on my mind yesterday morning and then our pastor preached about comparison and finances which really drove the point home.  My housing situation could be so much worse, I am lucky to have a home. So today I am grateful for my home, the sunshine and this week of love – in which I’m going to have another featured over on Burnett’s Boards in conjunction with Heather Cisler Photography!

Have a great week friends!

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Steering Away from Negative Town

0 · Feb 3, 2014 ·

Last week was a burst of fun!  I played in the snow with some gorgeous flowers and Heather Cisler (while also freezing my tushy off – there’s a fun little preview from her below).  I traveled up north with my hubby and baby girl to meet my dear friend Rachel and we collaborated on a little project that makes me giddy all over!  I was able to spend time with my Grandpa, meet some new vendors and have a lovely dinner with family and brunch with friends.  Plus I put together even more flowers and I ate a donut with sprinkles… sound like the perfect week, right?

Valentine's Treats | The Day's Design | Heather Cisler Photography

And then Sunday came.  We had perfect weather for travel (which has not been easy to come by lately) and made a couple of stops to pick up ingredients to make a simple and yummy dinner while we watched the Super Bowl.  That was the plan anyway.  What actually happened is a whole other story.  I opened the door to our home and immediately was greeted by the sound of dripping water.  About two feet in front of me was a huge crack in my dining room ceiling which was leaking.  Thankfully, it had managed to soak the rug beneath but no other furniture or flooring was damaged.  Needless to say, our original plan for the night was shot.

Today I have a giant hole in our ceiling, where the wet and rotted drywall once sat.  I also have 3 buckets, a ladder and a huge garbage can decorating my no longer functional dining room.  And due to the odd layout of our house, this also means that our main entry is not usable either.

Oddly enough though, I woke up today in good spirits.  The sun is shining and life will move on.  Then I made the mistake of logging into Facebook.  Negative comment, horrible status update, grumbles, complaints and other rants flooded my newsfeed.  Yes it is Monday… we all may have the case of “the Mondays” however, move on!  This just brings others down with you!!

Logging out.  While I did not make any definite New Year’s resolutions this year, I did promise myself that I would steer away from anything that made me feel negative or poorly about myself.  This might mean un-following certain people on social media, not comparing yourselves to others – either in personal or business situations, and trying oh-so hard to focus on the positive (like the fact that I’m going to have some amazing pictures to share with you really soon!)

When I feel these negative thoughts creep in I like to turn to writing.  Sometimes this is where my encouraging blog posts stem from, I write them for me.  Many of them also go unpublished, as at times it might be better if you didn’t know all of the crazy details running through my head.  And then I play with flowers.  Because who can be sad while playing with something so pretty?

There will be storms to survive.  There will be mountains to climb.  There will be battles to fight.  We’re only in month two of 2014 and these worlds could not be truer.  It can only get better from here – I say with lots of hope and anticipation for the future!

Happy Monday!!

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Pep Talks: Hovering over the “Send” Button

0 · Jan 23, 2014 ·

I have chatted about fear before.  But that doesn’t mean I have overcome all of mine.  So here we are again… I’m thinking about the risks we take every day.  They may be large or small, but they still exist.  Every time you leave the safety of your own house there’s a chance that something good or bad could happen to you.  There’s a chance something could happen if you stay at home too.  But most of us don’t stay cooped up, afraid to exit our front doors because we could get hit by a bus or attacked by a swarm of angry bees.  We can’t think about all the bad things that could possibly happen to us.

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Remember when the weather was warm and we could eat outside?  {Sigh} Photo by Bradley James Photography

Earlier this month I had the amazing opportunity to see the Zac Brown Band in concert.  Awesome. I highly recommend.  As I was standing there watching them perform, a line to one of their songs really hit me, “You may fall down on your face, roll the dice and have some faith”.  I have heard the song a hundred times.  But for some reason it really resided with me that night.  I made a silent vow to myself; I was going to take more risks.

So here I am, twenty days later dreaming about an idea, reaching out to others in the industry and afraid to hit the “send” button.  What if they think it’s dumb?  Why are we so scared to taking chances?  I hate that I care so much what others think!

But I do.  Even though I try to tell myself that I don’t, that I need to make myself happy and do what’s best for my family.  “Roll the dice and have some faith.”  Faith.  Faith.  Faith.  That’s what I need.  You don’t know if you don’t ask, right?

What are you scared to fight for?  Is it worth the risk?

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Oh My Stars Gretta Turned 1!!!

0 · Jan 20, 2014 ·

Are you ready for a dose of adorable this afternoon?  Way back in November (umm… last year!!), my little Gretta turned 1.  So we had a fun and simple, DIY celebration – using items that I for the most part had just laying around the house (read more about this challenge here).  It’s so much fun getting together with friends and family, even if Gretta isn’t going to remember the celebration 🙂

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Oh My Stars 1st Birthday | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

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Creating parties around the holidays can be a little extra challenging.  My goal was to create a fun, kid and adult friendly environment that wasn’t too grown up but also didn’t clash with my Christmas decor.  The “Oh My Stars” concept was born.

A little card stock, spray paint, glitter and glue brought these handmade invitations to life.  Actually, those were the components surround most of my projects for this party.  After all, you’re never to young for some sparkle!

Oh My Stars homemade party invitations | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Oh My Stars homemade party invitations | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Oh My Stars 1st Birthday Party | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Oh My Stars 1st Birthday Party | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Gretta's 1st Bday | Oh My Stars!! | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

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Monkey Bread Flower Cake | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

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Bright Pink Winter Florals | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

My adorable niece absolutely insisted that we add some purple roses in with the decor!

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Glittery Silver Star Placemats | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

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Oh My Stars 1st Birthday | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

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Oh My Stars 1st Birthday Party | The Day's Design | Hetler Photography

Our little Gretta is so blessed to have an amazing family and many friends who gathered with us to celebrate!!  Thank you to all, including the super sweet Kellie (of Hetler Photography) who was able to capture the joy of this day!!

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Photography:  Hetler Photography  /  Event Planning, Florals & Design: The Day’s Design

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Little Sister Getting Married {To Be Continued}

0 · Jan 14, 2014 ·

I have fairly openly blogged about my little sister’s wedding, a little more-so than with other brides and projects I’m working on.  Her wedding has truly been a labor of love with lots of gorgeous details in the works.  There’s also been a lot of anticipation for this event; I hear buzz from wedding guests, other vendors and friends alike.  “You’re going to blog the results, right???” I can’t even count the number of times those words have been said.

But the piece of the wedding that makes the day so beautiful is the love, commitment and the person you have waiting for you at the end of the aisle.  And sometimes throughout the planning process another truth is presented.  Sometimes you realize that your family is perfect just the way it is.

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While its human nature to long for companionship, I truly believe the best relationships might be the ones that are right in front of you – your family, your best friend, your beautiful little girl.  Your {future} spouse may not necessarily make your life complete.

My little sister is completely heartbroken after making the tough decision to call off her wedding, which was supposed to have taken place past weekend.  It’s a brave and bold choice to make.  But I fully support her decision and know from the bottom of my heart that she will triumph over this.

I originally thought that this would be the final post in the “Little Sister Getting Married” series, however I have rethought this.  It’s just To Be Continued, a little stalling period to keep the audience in suspense.  I have no doubt that the best in her life is yet to come.

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Overcoming your Three Greatest Challenges in the New Year

0 · Jan 3, 2014 ·

Well friends, 2014 is officially here.  And after traveling to Lake Leelanau, Detroit and East Lansing and hosting 2 dinner parties all in the past 2 weeks, I’m ready for life to start getting back to a normal pace.  I am also ready for focus on things ahead.

I have never been one for New Year’s resolutions though.  I suppose it’s really more of a fear of failing at them, which most people do.  So rather than concurring my fears, I tend to just avoid them.  Which right now, I fully intend to continue doing.  You see, a couple months ago I thought that if I blogged about my goals for the month, it would help me stay accountable.  That didn’t work either.  I was purposely vague about them (rather than making them specific and attainable as I have been taught in all my business classes) and I just disappointed myself, in the end feeling more like a failure.

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So on that note, I’ve been trying to figure out how to approach 2014, both personally and professionally.  I still haven’t figured it out.  However, on Sunday we had a guest speaker at our church and I think he had some great insights on the New Year.  Here’s what he had to say:

Overcoming your Three Greatest Challenges in the New Year

1.  There will be storms to survive.

The New Year will provide new challenges.  Some of those might be left over from last year and some may be completely out of the blue and brand spanking new.  But either way, God is with you.  With Him, you can weather the storm.  The key is to keep your eye on the provider, the one who can calm the wind and the waves, rather than focusing on the problem, or the storm itself.

2.  There will be mountains to climb.

Instantly when he said this the first thought that came to mind was “no hill for a stepper” – which is a ridiculous saying that I have heard come out of my mother’s mouth time and time again.  But there’s some truth there.  Take one step at a time making your way to the top.  It might be a slow journey, but you can make it.  God is for you!  When God looks at you, he can see your full potential.  Have faith that through Him you can do all things.

3.  There will be battles to fight.

God is fighting for you.

“Now to Him who is able to do far more abundantly than all we ask or think, according to the power at work within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all the generations, forever and ever. Amen.” Ephesians 3:20-21.

Our minds are so little and cannot even comprehend all the God is able to do.  Do you ever wonder if God finds our simple requests silly and is up there having a good chuckle?  Nevertheless, He will fight for you.  The outcome might not be exactly what you had planned, but that’s okay.  I think He has His eye on a bigger picture.

I know there will be surprises along the way and challenges on the road ahead.  However, I’m having faith that there is a greater plan and better things yet to come in 2014.

Happy New Year!

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The beautiful bouquet above was created by yours truly this fall and photographed so beautifully by Bradley James Photography.

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Merry Christmas

0 · Dec 28, 2013 ·

My Facebook page informed me that it has been 8 days since I’ve posted anything “your audience wants to hear from you!!” Ha.  I’m sure you’re all on the edge of your seatings wondering what’s happening over here!  Actually, I feel as though I just dissolved into the magic of the holidays, celebrating family and togetherness in its entire splendor.  Nope, no “Happy Holidays” message from The Day’s Design.  Sorry, social media just didn’t find its way into my merriness!

However, that doesn’t mean that good wishes into the New Year aren’t bestowed upon you.  It also doesn’t mean I didn’t wish you a Merry Christmas.

Sadly, someone I know who did post something on social media about her Christmas and it’s true meaning found herself the victim of criticism and hurtful backlash – which boiled down to calling her a hypocrite because she put Christ at the center of Christmas but also loved receiving lots of Christmas presents.

To that I would say this – everyone is entitled to their own version of what Christmas represents.  I love giving presents and yes, I like to receive them too.  I love to shop and find the perfect gift.  I love the ribbons and the bows.  Fires, hot cocoa, the smell of evergreen and the twinkle of lights warm my heart.  But most of all, Christ is at the center of my Christmas.  He is the reason that I celebrate.  Without Him, I can see no purpose for joy, hope or merriment.  The future is dark and there’s no reason to think that there are better things to come.

There are many views regarding the meaning of Christmas.  The reason for my season though, is gratitude.  I have a heart of thanksgiving, not only at Christmas, but throughout the year, celebrating all that God has done, provided and given me.  Christmas is just that additional opportunity to spread that cheer.

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So even though I’m three days late, know that my heart was with you, wishing all the very merriest of Christmases and a wonderful New Year!!

From our family to yours !! Picture by my dear friends at Hetler Photography

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Shopping with Shelby: Macy’s

0 · Dec 11, 2013 ·

This new series of posts has been in the works for a while now, well, at least they’ve been an inner dialog running through my head (as so many of my posts are).  I get asked extremely frequently where I found things, what antique stores I shop at and asked for the story behind certain objects in my home, as well as pieces that I use in some of my events.

Now anyone that truly knows me, knows that I am a huge bargain shopper and even somewhat of a cheapskate.  But the fact of the matter is, I like nice things, I like things to be pretty but I don’t have an unlimited budget to make it all happen.  And I would also like to credit my father for my frugalness.  He is the ultimate thriftier.  Growing up I never thought I’d meet someone as cheap as my father.  We never had a new car, a new TV or any other electronic as far as that goes, and the number of items that were salvaged out of the neighbors and other random people’s trash was ridiculous.  Thank you Dad for teaching me that it is okay to pull over alongside of the road and do a little shopping.

But today I’m not thrift store shopping.  Today I go big and turn away from my boutique and small shop roots.  Today, I would like to give a little shout out to Macy’s. And for my roots of shopping there, I credit none other than my mother.

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As a child we shopped at Hudson’s, which then became Marshall Field’s and later Macy’s.  While all three stores were in the same building, Macy’s is really my true love.  I really don’t know if anyone of them was better than the other, maybe I just gravitate more towards Macy’s because of the familiarity and the appreciation of money more in my adult life.  Whatever the reason, it is my number 1 go-to store when I need something stylish and new to add to my wardrobe is Macy’s.  They have the best sales.  Discounts upon discounts, I highly recommend their clearance racks.

On top of that, the Star Rewards card (or Macy’s Credit Card) is a must have.  I am not an advocate of shopping on credit, but this card is worth having.  So many additional discounts and coupons sent your way – just make sure you pay it off on time, and you will reap the rewards.  (And don’t tell Dave Ramsy!!)

Customer service is this store is top notch.  Not just here in my Grand Rapids location either.  I purchased all the suits for the groomsmen in my wedding from Macy’s and the service was impeccable.   They helped me find all the pieces from stores all across the country and had them shipped directly to my doorstep.  This is customer service in Flint, Michigan.  I feel good about telling you to do some shopping in Flint – their store even has a furniture department! I’ve also had to use their phone services regarding my credit card account and it’s always been the absolute best experience.  So polite and amazing.  Macy’s opened its doors in 1858, meaning the store has been opened 155 years – they must be doing something right!

And don’t forget about their wedding registry.  Above any other store, I recommend that couples registry here.  The selection of goodies for your home, kitchen and bath is wonderful.  If they don’t have it in store, you can so easily order it online (or add it to your registry online) and the stores are across the country, making it pretty convenient for all wedding guests.  Then for the bonus, after your wedding you receive a gift card to Macy’s with a percentage of the total from all the wedding gifts that were purchased for you.  After my wedding, we received a $50 gift card in the mail – and hardly anyone had even purchased from our registry.  $50 of free shopping?  Yes please!!

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So head on over to Macy’s to finish your holiday shopping and be sure to drop off your letters to Santa and they will donate to Make-A-Wish!

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Happy December

0 · Dec 2, 2013 ·

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Happy December!!  It’s here the month I wait all year for.  It’s time for the magic and warmth that the holidays bring and the feeling of thankfulness that carries over from November.  I have so much to be thankful for, despite me not having jumped on the 30 days of thankful bandwagon, that doesn’t mean that I do feel it or recognize what God has blessed me with.

I feel like December is the month for wrapping up the old and starting fresh with the new.  Not that there was anything wrong with 2013, but I’m excited for a fresh start and new hopes and promises that 2014 bring.  Is there anything you’d like to see more of from The Day’s Design in 2014???

I’m compiling a list of things that I would like to update and some things that will likely remain to the same in 2014.  I’m working with consistency, updating the website a tad and a couple fun new ideas that are scheduled to happen even before we ring in 2014.  So my goals for December?  Live life to the fullest, keep on trucking and enjoy the holidays… even if there is lots of work in the mix!!

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The Birthday Challenge

0 · Nov 26, 2013 ·

Guess what?!  Miss Gretta is officially 1 year old today!  I can’t even believe it!!  Margaretta James Ferguson, 6 lbs 13 oz, she was born at 11:32 pm on this chilly November day!

Gretta 5 months

Which leads me into my next question, have you read about the contentment challenge?  It is really inspiring me and has helped to focus on needs and necessities verse wants.  Let’s face it, as Americans we are blessed with so much.  Due to current circumstances Josh and I pretty much practice a bare bones living.  Now that does not mean we don’t splurge or do something special now and again.  But as of late, our spending habits are not very frivolous.

In addition, I have really been focusing on “Do what you can with what you have” – another piece of advice passed along to me that keeps ringing through my head.  I know it’s the time of year where we are all supposed to be thankful, which I am, but this goes beyond that.  It’s an ache in my heart.  And at one time it was focus of my business.  When I began, my hope was to prove that you don’t need an unlimited wedding budget to have a beautiful day.  And you definitely don’t need to drive yourself into debt doing so.  There’s something to be said about creating a simply pretty event.   There’s an art to it.

With all this in mind, I am busy busy with my next project.  It’s a very special party for my little birthday girl.  My challenge has been creating an amazing party (which I am well aware that she will not remember – but I have to do it anyway!) without spending any money.  Alright, I will admit, I’m going to spend a little, people need plates and napkins and I can’t resist putting together some beautiful blooms, but beyond that, everything has been created from things laying around the house.  Recycle, reuse and spray-paint!!  It is sort of my own version of the contentment challenge, The Birthday Challenge.  This is a very peaceful mindset and I cannot wait to share the results of the party, as well as this challenge as suddenly I feel like I am able to look at my humble house with new eyes.

In case I don’t have another chance to blog again this week, have a fabulous Thanksgiving!!!

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The above photo was Gretta at 5 months, from Hetler Photography.  I think it’s time for some new ones, don’t you???

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My Sock Bun Hits the Ceiling!!

0 · Oct 11, 2013 ·

I rarely wear my hair up.  And if I do it’s one of those super-messy, spur-of-the-moment, I-HAVE-to-get-my-hair-off-my-neck situations.  I have this really weird thing about my neck and showing off my ears, anyway, so NOT the point of this post (I’m just quirky and don’t like my hair up – enough said).

In addition to being the pre-wedding coordinator and event designer for my sister’s wedding, I have the added bonus of also being the maid of honor.  I am so super excited about this and about her, and it is truly an honor to be a part of her dream day in such a big way.  It is also my duty as a bridesmaid to be an awesome MOH and realize that it’s her day, and things will be done her way.  Perfect.

But she thinks she wants the girls to wear their hair up.  So as a good older sister and bridesmaid I’ve begun experimenting with how I can wear my hair up and keep both of us happy.  The ever so popular sock bun has come into play.  I love the look of a giant, sophisticated and neat bun.  I would still get big hair, but it wouldn’t be messy. Yes, I thought this might be the perfect solution.

I rocked it for a couple days.  And then I got in my car.

Now, I’m not going to go off on a tangent about how cars were clearly designed by bald men who have no appreciation of a greatly teased head of hair. However, the frustration of having to lean my seat back and slouch while driving is great.  It might even be classified as a safety risk.  But of course as a female, I tend to put beauty before safety, oops.

When I drive my Tahoe, it’s not an issue.  I have since told my husband that I will no longer be driving the car.  He rolled his eyes and switched keys.

What I am wondering is, how are you brides with fabulous up-dos being transported to your ceremony location or who’s driving you home from the salon?  Are you going to have to be crammed in a car or do you have a luxurious SUV of some sort?  Or perhaps your stylist is coming to you (which I highly recommend).  Am I just being crazy??  Maybe others don’t really have this concern…  Maybe I just like my hair too big!!

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The above image is from here.  And you’ll also learn how to achieve this look yourself!!

Just the thoughts going through my head on the beautiful Friday morning!  Have a great weekend!!

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