Wedding Planning & Advice

Wet Weather Weddings

0 · Jul 10, 2014 ·

If you’re planning an outdoor affair it’s likely that the thought of rain has crept into your mind. Or at least it probably should have. This summer seems to be extra wet, and while I love not having to water my garden and how my lawn is remaining green, it does stress me when it comes to wedding planning.

I’m guilty of saying “the show must go on” and just going for it – I can talk a big game. So we get a little wet, we’re not going to melt. Brides with umbrellas are cute. There are some fabulous opportunities for unique photos. I can look at the glass as half full, for sure.

And I simply adore outdoor parties.

The start of wedding season for The Day’s Design was a drizzly one despite the weatherman’s positive outlook on the day. In fact, we later found out that just a few miles away, they didn’t even receive a drop of rain. That’s crazy Michigan weather for you.

We stayed optimistic throughout the setting up process. We kept moving and utilized our tarps and other coverings. And we pulled though. But it wasn’t as easy as glamorous pictures are sure to show. The heat and humidity cause your clothing to simply stick to you. Papers were soggy and limp. My rain boots rubbed on my toes. There were bugs. And every time we thought the skies were clearing, fresh droplets were released from the clouds. How the bride remained staying so fresh and beautiful is beyond me.

I don’t share this to complain about the wedding day. I simply would like to point out the comfort or perhaps discomfort you and your guests might endure should you decide to move forward with an outdoor ceremony on a rainy day. I wish to express the importance of having a backup plan – although I do understand how hard it can be to utilize that, unless the day is calling for monsoon conditions. But grounds become muddy and even after the showers have stopped, the canopy of trees above us still produced sprinkles every time there was even the slightest breeze.

You should also consider the policies other vendors have regarding rain. Some equipment cannot get wet – cameras, sound systems, etc. And how will the rental company feel if their upholstered lounge seating is returned saturated? Are you risking damage deposits and extra fees? Are there wedding details you’re going to have to give up if the rain doesn’t let up?

Even with the weather, it was beautiful start to the summer 2014 wedding season– the way the light shown through mist in the woods that day was breathtaking. I can’t wait to share more peaks from Kelly Sweet Photography. And after seeing this picture, I’m not sure I would change a thing – including the weather forecast.

The Best Laid Plans

0 · Jun 11, 2014 ·

Its peony season here in West Michigan. It’s also time for me to prepare for my small part in Bloom the Workshop. How lucky could I possibly be that fate would bring these two happy occasions together in the same week!?

I have one sad little peony bush in my back yard. She’s slow to bloom and doesn’t produce many buds. But each year she comes back and brings me so much joy. And each year I’m stuck with this dilemma, to pick the flowers and bring them inside to enjoy for a fleeting moment in time or leave them on the bush – where I’ll see them much less but their loveliness will live on a little longer.

This year I decided that they would have a special purpose. They would be enjoyed by others and I would bring them along with me to Bloom the Workshop. They would live long after they’re gone in the memories of all my new creative friends.

In addition, I’ve spent my week scouting out the best roadside/garden side/woodland greens and blossoms to add to the ones that will my arriving shortly at my doorstep from my wholesaler. I never order all of my flowers from a wholesaler – I need to touch, feel and explore to make my creations perfect. I had a plan, a picking spot and even a travel route all schemed out.

And then came the rain.

My poor little peonies are sadly smushed to the ground. And while I haven’t exactly explored my other flowers which I was sure to forage – I have a sinking feeling that all their sweet little petals might not be in tack. What’s a girl to do?

I sadly made my way to the farmer’s market this morning in hopes of finding some fresh cut loveliness like I found the week before, only to find the stalls empty. So now friends, I have a mission. And I don’t know yet how this story is going to end or where my travels today might take me. All I know is that sometimes the best laid plans fail but I will not. I promised to deliver some gorgeous arrangements to Bloom and I don’t break my promises.

Above is a little something I put together earlier this week — and I might have snagged the image from Bloom’s Instagram feed. Be sure to follow along with me @thedaysdesign or the workshop directly @bloomtheworkshop

Defined :: Shabby Chic

0 · Jun 10, 2014 ·

Photo by Bradley James Photography

Brides often start painting me a picture of their beautiful “shabby chic” wedding day and as an artist myself, I pick my paint brush and jump right on board only to realize that we’ve created 2 completely different pieces of art. My vision of shabby chic does not always align with theirs.

Just because something is old, does not make it shabby chic. Likewise, newer pieces can also be reminiscent of a shabby chic style. Vintage does not equal shabby chic, however I find it extremely common for people to use the two interchangeably in a conversation.

My vision of shabby chic: soft tones, muted pastels, layers of chipped paint, florals, roses and quite possibly romantic lacey touches. It’s an airy and collected feel. I imagine a room with gorgeous light flooding in through white French style doors that have been left open all summer long. Sunlight fills the air, with sheer curtains, leaving no corner untouched. I imagine touching my bare feet on painted wooden floors and wrapping myself in white cotton and linen. And gradually, over time the sun takes its toll, and the beautifully feminine style of the décor begins to fade leaving behind soft blushes, pretty peaches and pale blues in favor of their bolder counterparts. Occasionally I allow a few rustic touches to mix in, but for the most part I loved to imagine this world with tone-on-tone ivory and white living together in blissful harmony.

I would love to create a truly shabby chic wedding for you. It makes my heart flutter just thinking about it.

And if you’d like to read more about the shabby chic style you can do so here.

Why Does It Cost So Much?

0 · Jun 6, 2014 ·

Ever notice how much life costs? Yeah, I figured you have. It seems like you start a project, get all excited, plans made, blueprints drawn and then you start shopping. And once you start shopping the totals just keep add up, and up. And somehow, even though you had planned well and thought this was going to be simple it ended up costing so much more than originally estimated.

Why does it cost so much?

I’m not just talking about weddings, although there’s a huge case to be made for those (and you can read some follow blogger’s view on this subject here and here), but I think this is just plain old life in general. I’m so completely guilty of wanting to stick it to the big companies and get the best deal possible, taking after my dad and doubling, then tripling coupons finding a rebate and then in the end the store actually pays me to take the item off their shelves. Yup, this would call for a victory dance. So in the same manor, I try to negotiate and barter and score the best deals with everyone, always shopping around and exploring all possibilities. But somewhere down the line someone is feeling the pain of that discount. They might be working extra jobs to make up in quantity what their profit margins are lacking. Or maybe they just have to live a little bit more modest life. I don’t know those end stories.

What I can attest to is the surprisingly high costs of running a business and running life. And I don’t like to talk about money, but it is a part of living every day. As someone who runs their own business and wants to make you flowers for every occasion imaginable – for free—it pains me to say that my services don’t fit within your budget. I want to plan a stress free wedding day for you just because you deserve it. And I want to see a happy new married couple at the end of each day.

So here’s my biggest budgeting tip: plan for the unexpected. Something unexpected will happen – whether you fall in love with a piece of furniture that just has to be part of your new décor or a tree falls through your roof, I think we need to remember we’re not in complete control of our surroundings and when something unexpected happens, sometimes it costs A LOT.

{Similarly this is a huge piece of wedding advice I pass along too – something unexpected will happen at your wedding. Count on it.}

And then focus on the end goal. As totals keep adding up, consider whether or not the extra item is really needed or if that money might be better suited somewhere else or even left in your pocket. Remember what will truly make you happy. Always focus on what matters most.

So why does it cost so much? Because someone is trying to make a living by selling their product and services. It’s as simple as that.

And be cause donuts are better than balance sheets (supposidly it’s National Donut Day!!), here’s a photo by Unikke Photography.

Up North Living & Summertime on My Mind

0 · May 2, 2014 ·

Summertime. The word itself just brings a smile to my face. I think about sunshine, lemonade and long days spent at the beach. This is a little funny though, considering I rarely drink lemonade and I live a good 35+ minutes from the beach. Maybe I should substitute white wine and backyard grilling.

Growing up, I lived even farther from the beach. A lot farther. I would drive 4 hours to get to my Grandparent’s house on Lake Leelanau. It was a drive that was worth every minute. When I lived on the east side of Michigan, your options for going to the beach were a bit more limited. There were a couple meaningless, no name (or at least names I don’t know) lakes that may have been swimmable and then you could drive to Lake Huron. Now no offense to Mr. Huron – but that lake fails to even hold a candle to the light of Lake Michigan.

So into the car we jumped every summer to make the 4 hour journey to Grandpa and Grandma’s house. And when we arrived, summer could then begin.

Every time I see a picture of Fishtown or even Traverse City in my social media feed, I can’t help but feel a little jealously and longing. Can I please have another excuse to go Up North? Will you please let me plan your wedding up there??? (I’m not begging – I’m asking very nicely, with lots of urgency behind it!)

I still make that trip as often as possible, especially since it’s gotten a little shorter now that I live in Grand Rapids. And while someday, I hope to live a little closer to the lakeshore but still remaining in West Michigan, I don’t think that will ever stop me from traveling to Leelanau, which will forever be my home away from home.

Photo by Shannon Scott Photography {Smug Shots}, did you know that I was lucky enough to have my wedding reception in Leland, Michigan?

I’m Not Perfect

0 · Apr 29, 2014 ·

There’s lots of talk in this industry about the “perfect” wedding. Whether it’s picture perfect or runs perfectly smooth, I think we’re given this false hope that if we plan correctly, hire the exact right vendors and read enough wedding blogs/magazines, then you’re day will indeed be perfect.

I might have other ideas. I will not plan your “perfect” wedding because in fact, I’m not perfect.

Case in point: every single inspiration shoot I have taken part in has had something go wrong or in some way did not turn out EXACTLY as I had envisioned. I’m not going to point out to you these flaws, as you might not recognize them right away and I’ll just let you think I planned things certain ways. However, this is under a very controlled environment and scenario where there are unexpecteds (think weather – which is a HUGE one, being sent the wrong linen, stepping on a bee…ouch!), so I’m sure you can imagine what might happened during a real event, where there are hundreds of people verses my 4 models and one crazy Uncle Lou might have been served too much to drink.

Humans aren’t perfect. We say the wrong things, post insulting and harmful things on social media and have typos in our writings. And I think there’s this immediate need to respond and point out these imperfections, which seems all too wrong. “I will hold myself to a standard of grace, not perfection”.

All we can really do is make the best decision with the resources you have laid out in front of you. You can surround yourself with the best support system and do what you can with what you have. Find vendors you trust, make decisions that make sense and live in the moment. That is the best advice I can possibly give you while planning your wedding (and pretty much every other piece of life).

Here’s a little sneak peek from my last project with Heather Cisler Photography. Another perfectly, imperfect project (hello major wind storm!), with more to share soon!

Where to Draw the Line

0 · Apr 24, 2014 ·

Earlier today I was reading a post about money saving ideas for weddings and planning on a budget. I realize everyone has their own ideas, and it seems that all “rules” have been thrown out the window. I myself am guilty of encouraging couples to do whatever pleases them and making the celebration truly their own, representing a happy start to their marriage.

But how far is too far? When is an idea unique and quirky, and when is it just downright tacky? How do you battle the frivolous and the budget conscious?

I was nodding along to the entire article, which made points about prioritizing and focusing on 3 things that you find the most important, and considering the sacrifices you’ll make if you hire a friend verse a professional to do certain tasks, such as videography among other services. I can completely be on board with these ideas. My jaw did not actually hit the floor until I saw a comment at the end suggesting the best way to save money is to have a potluck style reception. Yes, in fact, this person was suggesting that you ask your guests to bring a dish to pass. I’m not even sure where to begin with a response to that. To me, you have crossed a line. I cannot fathom this nor comprehend how to word this with even a little dignity and etiquette on a wedding invitation.

I would classify this as too far. But perhaps, others find this normal? Do they?

Photo by Bradley James Photography

So here are some thoughts you might want to consider when you’re considering these more innovative and out-of-the-box wedding ideas:

What’s the motivation?

Is your unique idea a true representation of you or your family? Are you serving pizza because it’s a super cheap option or because it’s a tradition in your family to eat pizza every Saturday night (not to mention, everyone love pizza, right?!) Are you using sequined linens because you love all things glitter or because Sally did at her wedding and your wedding has to be better than hers? Did you just see the idea on Pinterest and think it was cool or is it actually your personal decorating style?

Will it make your guests uncomfortable?

While your wedding day might be all about you and your love, it doesn’t hurt to make your guests happy too. That super cheap wedding venue without AC might look good on paper, but when the thermometer hits 90+ in the middle of July, you might be singing a different tune. You don’t want the most memorable part of your wedding to be the negative. Situations can also make people feel uncomfortable. I personally feel awkward when I’m attending a wedding that I know nothing about, inside or outside venue, formality levels, etc. And being asked to bring a dish would simply leave me scratching my head and make me feel really uneasy, what in the world should I bring?!

Will it be fun?

People like fun. Your wedding is celebration. Yes, it is a serious commitment that should be honored, but to me, celebrations are a happy time. And happy can easily translate into fun. How are you going to celebrate your wedding date? Make it special and have fun!

These are just a couple ideas to consider among the long list of craziness that surrounds a wedding. As a wedding planner, I hear and see ideas quite often that leave me amazed – both in a good and bad way. So as you’re stretching your budget, searching for different ideas and considering unique approaches to your celebrations, I simply encourage you to take just a moment to stop and think about what you’re doing, why you’re doing it and the effects it might have on those around you!

Happy Planning!

One Step at a Time

0 · Apr 18, 2014 ·

Do you ever see people around you doing amazing things and think “well, that’s just part of their personality, they’re super bold and outgoing. I could never do that”. Oh my, I have these thoughts a lot. I tell myself that I can’t do things because I don’t know how. And I don’t even know where to get started or who to ask.

But once there was a time when I had never planned a wedding. At one point I had never emailed another vendor. There was a while when I never planned a photo shoot. And at one time I had never written a blog post and The Day’s Design’s website didn’t exist. But somehow I figured it out (right, wrong or otherwise!)

I was thinking about all of this this morning as I’m gearing up for Easter and then a busy week ahead of that. I started to panic, as I often do, thinking that my designs might not work out or something could go wrong. Both true points. But I have to start somewhere. If I never move forward because I’m scared of the results, then I’ll just be left standing still. And that just seems silly.

One step at a time. Whatever you’re working on, just take one step at a time.

I hope you have a fabulous Easter. I’m going to leave you with a picture from my first large scale photo shoot – I was 9 months pregnant and didn’t have a clue what I was doing. But Bradley James Photography rocked it for me! And the pictures are still some of my very favorites (you can see the whole feature here.)

Happy Easter!!

Planning Your Dreams

0 · Apr 7, 2014 ·

When I gave my business a name back in fall of 2011, I had this ridiculous notion that by somehow having a name and business cards, people would begin to take me seriously and business would just come to my doorstep. Ha… what was I thinking???

Fast forward 3 years now and I have such a greater understanding of business, life and dreams and how they’re all intertwined. Summer of 2012 was when I really began to put myself out there and make this dream my career and by fall 2012 it became abundantly clear that if I wanted to really make this work, I could no longer also work a full time job. Leap of faith = quit my full time job.

Now all of this is fine and dandy, I had a plan – a real life business plan, I had goals and a little bit of a path cleared out to make it happen. I even had a 5 year dream in place of where I’d really like my business to be.

However, if you never change anything, you’ll never grow and make these dreams a reality. It’s great to have a plan, but you also have to follow that plan. This is where I am now. I’m sitting here telling myself that eventually “this” is how I’d like my business to be. And eventually I’d like to add such-and-such additional services. It’s been over a year since I’ve been voicing thoughts and ideas out loud with no action to move forward. If I keep doing exactly what I’m doing right now, these ideas will never happen. Umm… reality check please!

Same rules apply for so many aspects of life. In your job, in your relationships and where you want life to take you. Sure there are unexpected bumps along the way, but if you never change anything in your present, how can you just expect that the future will be brighter? You have to work for something bigger. Set goals and accomplish things.

So it’s Monday and time for a fresh start. I’m pushing forward and going to MAKE my dreams come true! What are you doing today?

And the gorgeous blooms above were put together by yours truly and photographed by Ashley Slater Photography, thanks love!!

Venue Coordinator vs. Wedding Coordinator

0 · Mar 18, 2014 ·

This scenario has replayed itself several times in the past couple weeks and I’m starting to see a little pattern here. First a perspective bride contacts me and asks about pricing, availability and general services and business information. We happily chat about her dream day and it looks like I might have a potential wedding to add to my lineup. Then she chats again with her venue and Venue Coordinator. It’s at this point that something happens and she decides that she does not want to move forward with booking my services.

While I know this isn’t new information to be found out there on Mr. Internet, I do think we need to gain a little perspective on this situation. It’s my unhappy guess that the venue coordinator ensured said bride that all off her needs will be met and that my services are not needed. Why do you need a wedding coordinator and a venue coordinator?

Before it get into this whole debate, I would first like to remind you that I NEVER want you to spend more than absolutely necessary for your wedding. Budgets are extremely close to my heart, and I understand that not hiring a planner can be a money saving move. Secondly, I have been both a venue coordinator and a boutique wedding coordinator – I just want to make you aware of my experience.

Photo by Eliza Jean Photography

Venue Coordinator:

At your wedding venue there is more than likely a person there with the title Event Planner or Wedding Coordinator. This person works for the venue. They manage every party, event and dinner that is hosted in their facility. They know common room layouts, timing in the kitchen and pretty much have your wedding down to assembly line science. They work with the chef, the bartenders and the service staff making sure that their facilities looks spic and span and service is top notch. This ensures that their venue looks great, receives rave reviews and you’re a happily married couple at the end of the night.

Now here’s where things get a little fuzzy. Each venue is a little different so this is a generalized statement (as is some of the above, since not all venues have their own in-house catering). When you meet with the venue for the very first time, most likely you toured the property/event space, asked lots of questions, were given a packet of information and perhaps even a list of preferred vendors. You were probably told that they’d help you set up {if they have time}, you can decorate the day before {if there isn’t another event booked}, and they will help with all aspects of the event – which you assumed to mean directing vendors, guests and completing set-up {if they’re scheduled to work during those arrival/set-up times}.

Here’s what they might not be telling you. Turnover in the hospitality industry is extremely high; the Venue Coordinator you originally booked with at your venue might not be the same Venue Coordinator that actually runs your event. Did all of your notes get transferred? And can the new coordinator make sense of them? Ask your Venue Coordinator if they’re actually on-site during the event. A surprising number do not actually work weekends and just leave notes in the hands of their Banquet Captains. Again, is the Banquet Captain provided with all the details about your wedding?

{Boutique} Wedding Coordinator:

There’s a sentence up there says “help with all aspects of the event” – but what it really should say is “help with all aspects of the event happening within their facility”. Because that’s the truth. While there is absolutely nothing wrong with that, it’s simply stepping outside of their event space is not part of their job description.

The individual Wedding Coordinator that you hire is going to be your right hand man. True, how involved they actually get might vary depending on what you hired them for (day-of, partial or full planning, decorating, styling, etc.), but they work solely for you. Your Wedding Coordinator will help you with anything you need from the moment you get out of bed on your wedding day until the moment your head hits the pillow again as a married woman. If your transportation doesn’t arrive, she may jump in her Tahoe and go pick up the wedding party. If your photographer doesn’t show up, she’ll go to her list of contacts and find a backup, ASAP! You can go to your wedding coordinator with questions regarding timelines, etiquette, vendor referrals and difference of opinions with your new mother-in-law.

Another bonus? You can contact 1 person to make it happen! Your Wedding Coordinator can handle all of those various vendor relations for you. This means that you won’t have to type an email on your IPhone during your rehearsal dinner because there’s been a change of plans. Venue Coordinators don’t generally get that involved.

If you should happen to host your wedding a location that does not have a coordinator on-site at all then I dare say you NEED to hire someone. Leaving a rental company to show up at an empty space to set up chairs is a nightmare. Just expecting that the DJ or band will know where they should set up is asking too much. Oh the chaos guest could arrive and see!

My biggest piece of advice I can offer is to plan for the unexpected. Something WILL happen. Big or small, something that is not in your wedding plan is bound the take place. Having both a Venue Coordinator and a Wedding Coordinator is like an insurance policy, two heads are defiantly better than one!

Fashion for the Fellas

0 · Feb 26, 2014 ·

Let’s face it ladies, when it comes to the groom sometimes his attire gets a tad overlooked. We spend hours, days or even weeks searching for the perfect wedding dress and gowns for our maids. But when it comes to the gentlemen’s apparel we tend to just throw him in a black tux or grey suit, not putting too much into the process and selection. Maybe we’ll pick out a pretty colored tie.

Me? I’m guilty as charged.

Photo by Hetler Photography

In fact, I seldom even pay attention to men’s fashion at all. Now don’t get me wrong, I know a stylish stud when I see one, but when it comes to actually creating that look, sometimes I can be at a loss. So here we go, some tips on dressing him dapper.

1. Consider the overall wedding style

Is the affair classic and formal? Outdoorsy and rustic? Cozy or fun? Just like the bride’s dress, the grooms suit (or lack thereof) will help set the tone. Guests will see him before the bride, so the tone he sets with his attire can set the mood with the guest’s arrival.

2. Don’t underestimate the power of accessories

Guess what? Men need to be accessorized too! Even if he’s wearing a classic black suit or tux, subtle touches can take the look from drab to fab. Think bow-tie verse skinny tie, pocket square or boutonnières, even the shoes chosen can make a HUGE impact.

Men’s fashion doesn’t change nearly as much as women’s, however, the way we accessorize it certainly does. Black buttons on the dress shirt make it more formal, as do French cuffs with cufflinks. Seersucker or plaid bowties will give a more playful vibe. And a patterned shirt can change the entire look of the outfit.

3. He doesn’t have to wear a suit {or tux}

That’s right! If you’re having a backyard or relaxed celebration, a beach wedding or getting married in the heat of August you might want to consider more relaxed apparel too. Think seersucker suits, linen pants with button-down shirts or suspenders and ties. Winter grooms could opt for sweater vests or cable-knit cardigans.

4. The Groomsmen don’t have to dress the same

Just like mismatched bridesmaids, groomsmen could be allowed to choose an outfit in a particular color pallet. They also don’t have to match the groom, but rather choose attire that will compliment his look.

Take cues from the fashion world and don’t be afraid to style your men accordingly. The days of formal tuxedo rentals are starting to fade as more and more brides are choosing suits the groomsmen can keep.

Photo by Shannon Scott {Smug Shots}

And a couple of bonus thoughts: purchasing suits/attire means no one is responsible for returning them the next day AND if your groomsmen get a little wild (i.e. decide to tear off their sleeves), no worries it was theirs to keep!

Focus on the Controllable

0 · Feb 21, 2014 ·

Life spins out of control pretty fast. Sometimes it seems like just stops and makes a complete 180 from where I thought it was initially headed. And the worst part? It’s completely out of my control!

There are so many factors and variables that I deal with on a day to day basis, that I really have no say in, that it can absolutely drive a person bonkers. Yup, I said it BONKERS!! Business and personal life included: the weather, my clients, no response from an email, that new event planner in town, the fact that it’s raining inside my house (yes, I’m still dealing with that!) I can’t take it anymore!!!!

Solution: focus on the controllable. It’s as simple as that. Why do we spend so much time stressing and worrying about things that we have absolutely, positively no power over?

So here we go, this is how it’s all going to relate:

In business:

I’m a business owner (if you were previously unaware of this, we have some catching up to do!). I cannot make brides choose certain packages or services. I cannot make them work with myself or any other vendor. I have no say in whether or not they even get married. I also cannot dictate how many others decide to set up shop and also become wedding planners in my market. There is no way to prevent them from snatching brides away from me, undercutting my pricing or even possessing more creative ability than I do.

What I can do is focus my marketing efforts towards to brides I want to attract. I can put my best foot forward and continue to live my dream and hope others will recognize and appreciate my talents. I can hand out lots of business cards and introduce myself to everyone I see.

In wedding planning:

Spoiler alert – something unexpected WILL happen at your wedding. Wedding planner or not, something will not go exactly as planned. It might be something minor, it might be a bigger deal. You cannot control the weather, your guests, traffic, illness and the hundreds of other variables that come into play.

However, you can hire a planner and professional vendors and try to cover all your bases. Make sure you have communicated your desires as much as possible. You can be aware of the weather report and have umbrellas on stand-by. Be smart about the vendors you hire, if they have horrible reviews or you don’t like them, you don’t have to work with them – even if they were recommended by a friend or relative.

In life:

Manage the manageable. Live one day, one moment at a time. Take nothing for granted. I don’t know if a hurricane is going to sweep through here tomorrow and blow my house down (with this crazy Michigan weather, it wouldn’t even surprise me!). But what I can do is prepare and make sure that I’m smart and I build my house of bricks, rather than straw. My dining room might be completely disheveled, but I can keep the rest of my house tidy, just to save a bit of sanity.

Here I go back to this old saying “Do what you can with what you have”. Make the best of the situations and resources you have right in front of you. I mean really, what more can you do? Oh, and take a deep breathe… one must not forget to breath and let life happen.

Have a great weekend! Weather permitting I’m skipping off to Traverse City to meet with a bride, yeehaw!!

PS – And to add a touch of romance, that lovely image up there was captured by Chelsea Seekell Photography for your viewing enjoyment. You can see the whole wedding here.

Creating vs. Pinning

0 · Feb 18, 2014 ·

The last couple of days I’ve been a little Pinterest obsessed. I had gotten away from it for a while but it really is a great resource for capturing ideas that you love. Generally as I’m out and about in on the world wide web and I come across a picture, a bouquet or whatever else is lovely, I pin it. And occasionally as I’m looking for ideas for an upcoming project, I go back to those lovelies that I previously pinned because I found them inspiring.

I have had many others comment on my boards that I’ve put together – they love my style! Here’s my problem with that statement. The things that I pin are what inspire my style, they are what I find visually pleasing but they aren’t things that I actually created. So is that really my style?

“I know what I like when I see it, but I don’t know how to create it”. I’ve heard that way too many times. That’s why you brought in an expert – because you don’t know how to create it yourself. Unfortunately, even the “experts” might not be about to duplicate it since it isn’t their work.

This goes for anyone in the creative industry that is using Pinterest. Loving their pins is an awesome first step. However, don’t book someone just because they can source beautiful inspirations from around the internet. Make sure the events, florals, pictures or paper goodies they create also show off the style that you love. You don’t want them to copy these pins, just create the same essence that made you fall in love with the pin in the first place.

Examine the artist’s actual work and ask to see things in their portfolio that is similar to what you’re seeking. It’s okay to ask for a simple mock up or sketch, let them prove their abilities. Who knows, maybe some of those pins were actually created by them!

Happy Planning (and Pinning)!

It’s Wedding Weather! When to get Married in Michigan

0 · Feb 7, 2014 ·

Hey West Michigan! Want to talk about the weather? Does anyone else feel like that’s the only topic being discussed right now? Yes we have snow… thanks for the update. Sheesh!!

When I was younger, any time we were planning an event or family gathering in the winter my grandparents were always the first to chime in and say “depending on the weather.” “The roads could get bad.” “It is January, so you never know!” Ugh… I thought they were so lame and major worry warts.

Last Monday morning as I was driving down the road picking up props and supplies for my “fishy fun” project (search #fellinloveinfishtown on Instgram for some peeks), I couldn’t help but wonder why I was out on the roads. Crazy white out conditions! And my husband’s only response is “the things we do for photos!” True enough.

I have a really poor knack for picking dates for major events. I think it might run in the family. And I realize this is not what you want to hear from your wedding planner, so I’ll just let you pick the date! But what I was really wondering is if weather played a huge role in how you chose the date (or at least the time of year) you wanted to get married? I was thinking this morning about the pros and cons of getting married in each season.

Photo by Heather Cisler Photography

Winter (December – Mid March):

Pros-

Possibility for gorgeous snowy pictures
Less popular months to get married in, more vendor availability
Less conflicts for you wedding guests vacations schedules and social calendars (unless you choose December)
Getting married in December means the whole world is decorated with twinkle lights & greens – which could help your décor budget
You can serve warm beverages and winter comfort foods
Crystals and all things glittery blend oh-so perfectly!

Cons-

Possibly for poor weather – it could be snowy, icy or grey and dismal outside
It’s cold! Outside pictures are going to take some stamina
No greenery or leaves to add color to your wedding photos
You may need a pair of boots to wear under your wedding dress
December brides beware: the whole world seems to be decorated in twinkle lights and Christmas décor, which might clash with your wedding décor

Photo by Bradley James Photography

Spring (Mid March – May):

Pros-

Everything seems fresh and new which is a great feeling to have when starting your lives together
Spring flowers are A.MAZ.ING
Everyone is tired of being cooped up and ready to get outside
Possibility for warm, sunshiny day
It’s early in the wedding season, so vendors are fresh and excited about the upcoming season

Cons-

It can still be cold outside (last spring it was still snowing in May)
Two words: April showers
If your guests have children, be sure to take note of Spring Break schedules
Sometimes everything is still grey and muddy outside, not the lush green visions we have dancing in our heads

Photo by Chelsea Seekell Photography

Summer (June – August):

Pros-

The weather should be warm
More venue possibilities since outdoor spaces are also an option
Lots of flowers to choose from
Kids are on summer vacation, making it travel easier
More daylight hours

Cons-

It could be more expensive, since it’s prime wedding season
Less vendors to availability (unless you book early)
The weather could be too hot… giving you a nice glossy look in your photos
Humidity. Enough said.
Conflicts with summer vacation plans
You may have to also have a backup locations, if you’re choosing to celebrate outside

Photo by Bradley James Photography

Autumn (September – November):

Pros-

Our minds start shifting to warm and cozy favorites, which is a great ambiance to create for a wedding
The changing leaves and color make a stunning backdrop for pictures
Fall décor is easy to come by and has many budget friendly options
You may still have your summer suntan

Cons-

Nights cool down faster
Guest may have used all of their vacation time during the summer
Busy schedules with sports, back to school, etc.
September can be a rainy month
Autumn months are gaining popularity and are no longer considered “off season”

So what month will you be married in? Is the weather influencing your decision? I’m not sure what I would do if I had to plan it all over again, I love them all!

Little Sister Getting Married {To Be Continued}

0 · Jan 14, 2014 ·

I have fairly openly blogged about my little sister’s wedding, a little more-so than with other brides and projects I’m working on. Her wedding has truly been a labor of love with lots of gorgeous details in the works. There’s also been a lot of anticipation for this event; I hear buzz from wedding guests, other vendors and friends alike. “You’re going to blog the results, right???” I can’t even count the number of times those words have been said.

But the piece of the wedding that makes the day so beautiful is the love, commitment and the person you have waiting for you at the end of the aisle. And sometimes throughout the planning process another truth is presented. Sometimes you realize that your family is perfect just the way it is.

Photo by Bradley James Photography

While its human nature to long for companionship, I truly believe the best relationships might be the ones that are right in front of you – your family, your best friend, your beautiful little girl. Your {future} spouse may not necessarily make your life complete.

My little sister is completely heartbroken after making the tough decision to call off her wedding, which was supposed to have taken place past weekend. It’s a brave and bold choice to make. But I fully support her decision and know from the bottom of my heart that she will triumph over this.

I originally thought that this would be the final post in the “Little Sister Getting Married” series, however I have rethought this. It’s just To Be Continued, a little stalling period to keep the audience in suspense. I have no doubt that the best in her life is yet to come.

Little Sister Getting Married {Invitations are Out!}

0 · Dec 3, 2013 ·

I have had doodles, designs and to-do lists scattered about my desk for months now, all revolving around my little sister’s wedding. I am so excited for her and I keep going back to the plans trying to figure out how to make this the absolute wedding of her DREAMS. Now, admittedly I must say that I’m a little closer to this bride than my other clients, sorry, but it’s true. That being said, there’s a little more of an emotional connection there and sometimes I literally have to stop myself from jumping up and down when I’m in the planning stages.

November has been a month full of showers and parties all revolving around my dear sister. Invitations also went out last month (and as my mother said, “Well, it looks like we’re having a wedding!”) and RSVPs are starting to roll in. I just got an email from the fabulous Brad and Sam (of Bradley James Photography – who also took the above photo)and they’re hoping to tie up loose ends with them very soon. Eek… now I just had that “This is really happening” moment!!

This glittery, vintage, wintery wonderland affair is definitely going to be one for the books and I cannot wait until January!!

FAQ: What is Event Styling?

0 · Nov 22, 2013 ·

A couple weekends ago I was able to show my grandpa (who barely even knows what the internet is, much less how to actually use it), my website for the very first time. He has heard me talk about my photo shoots and weddings but never completely understood the extent of what I actually do. In his eyes, you just go to the church, stop and pick a couple flowers along the way and get married. Styling and coordination?? Not a concept he understood.

In addition, I showed him some of the pictures from my last project. After scrolling throw about 100 photos or so, he finally stopped and thoughtfully pointed to the girl on the left, “That girl, she looks just like they would have dressed in the 1930s.”

My point exactly. Someone had to style her to make that happen. Do you look at perfectly mismatched bridesmaids photos and wonder how that happened? How do they look so effortless, incredibly gorgeous and purposely placed, even though they don’t look the same? And then the flowers stand out flawlessly against all their dresses and the ribbons are the exact same hue? It all flows so completely seamless with the groomsmen attire, the invitations, tablecloths and gives off the perfect amount of causal glam? It’s because someone made that happen! Either professional or DIY, someone designed this wedding.

To put it simply, event styling or design, is interior design for your party. You hire an interior designer to pick out the perfect sofa and paint colors for your home, much the same, you hire an event designer to pick out the perfect pieces for your wedding.

What does it entail? Anything and everything pretty!! An event stylist will help you define your wedding vision, create an overall theme or inspiration board and help find all the elements to bring this vision to life. The exact process might be different for everyone, but I’ll share a little about what it’s like to work with me.

Depending upon when in the wedding process you hire me, things may vary a little, but here’s the gist. Together we’ll sit down and discuss your likes and dislikes, personal style and the overall feel you’re hoping your wedding will have. We’ll talk about inspiration and location. And then we’ll start shopping and designing! Some brides like me by their side the whole way, dress shopping, invitation selection and appointments with the pastry chefs. Other may have already picked out some of these elements or want to reserve special moments just for family. Either way works for me! I am kind of a personal shopping assistant. You’re looking for 12 pink vintage teacups? I’ll find them for you. Need 20 mercury glass vases in various sizes and shapes? I’m on it. Grey groomsmen’s suit with lavender bowties? Found it!

I’ll draw up a design plan, we’ll outline everything needed for your big day – from place cards to dessert displays – you can watch it all come to life. When it comes to setting up, no need to worry, I’ll oversee all those details while you are sitting back getting pampered and pretty.

Sounds amazing, right? I think so too! So let’s start planning your next pretty party!! (My grandpa thinks you should hire me – he’s impressed!!)

The above photo is by the fabulous Kellie of Hetler Photography and is from a super fun holiday shoot, which I can’t wait to share more of!!!

The White Wedding Dress

0 · Nov 13, 2013 ·

Simple, clean, elegant and timeless – white has been the go-to color for the modern bride. Whether lace or taffeta, short or long, it seems hard for us to imagine a decade when the bride didn’t wear white. But this tradition really hasn’t been in fashion as long as one might think.

Throughout history brides have worn the best they could afford to celebrate their union in life. From the richest fabrics to their Sunday best, the dress should always represent their families and class in a favorable light. It wasn’t until 1840 when Queen Victoria wed her groom in a white gown, accented with her favorite lace, which really set the tradition. Her wedding photographs were greatly published for that era and we all know how royalty sets the trends.

Around the 1920s the idea began that white represents virginity. Prior to this, blue had been the color that represented purity, although it never was extremely common in bridal fashions.

I have actually talked to brides who felt that they might be “judged” if they swayed from tradition and did not wear some form of white. Then there are those who feel to wear white is to wear a lie. But here’s what I think. I think white and ivory are classic and traditional choices that are simply stunning. I believe if you find a pink gown that screams your name, then you should wear it proudly. I also believe that it should be of no concern to the public whether you are a virginal bride or not. That is a highly personal matter between you and your spouse and you shouldn’t be forced to label yourself one way or another. A wedding is a celebration of love… so dress in a color that makes you celebrate!

I found this inspiration over on The Pretty Blog yesterday and it took my breath away! Would you consider wearing black on your wedding day? You can see the whole shoot here. And if you’d like to read a little more history on the modern wedding dress, you can do so here.

How to be an Amazing Bridesmaid

0 · Nov 11, 2013 ·

As the holidays approach, it means engagement season is just around the corner. Engagement season? Yes!! That magical span of months which bring romantic evenings, warming your toes by the fire and lots of new sparkly bling. Just watch your social media feeds, you’re about to get bombarded!

Maybe you’re one of the lovely ladies looking for that small box under the tree, but if not, that doesn’t mean that it won’t affect you in some way. Perhaps you will be asked another question – “Will you be my bridesmaid??”

She’s your friend, you love her, and you want to party so… “Yes!!” The soon-to-be bride then starts rattling off a list of dates, ideas and itineraries… what did you just get yourself into?

Being an amazing bridesmaid means a bit more than just putting on a dress (which you may or may not like) and showing up a couple hours before the wedding for some extra pictures. Your responsibilities last throughout the engagement period, which may last anywhere from 6 months to 3 years, so be prepared.

Photo by Bradley James Photography

You are now the bride’s backbone and support. You have become a sounding board for all wedding planning ideas. Stay interested and involved, soak up all these wedding planning tips, your turn might just be next!

Being a bridesmaid can also be a costly endeavor. You may be asked to purchase shoes, jewelry and accessories in addition to your dress. The bride may request that you have your hair and make-up professionally done. Tack a nail appointment on top of that. And then prior to any of this, there are showers (possibly multiple), which require planning and gifts and the bachelorette party. You are expected to be present with a present. Oh, and don’t forget about possible travel fees. Make sure you budget accordingly.

Can’t make it to one of these occasions? It is okay, life happens, but the bride needs to know you’re thinking about her. Send your gift with someone else. Call that night to see how everything went. Plan a special lunch date for just the two of you to give her the shower gift. Whatever you do, don’t just blow it off. It might just be another shower to you, but it’s really special to her and so remind her how much you love her.

I like to think of the engagement period as The Princess Months. This is the time in a girl’s life when she gets to act like a princess, and we all treat her like one as well. She can do no wrong (even if she is an absolute bridezilla), just nod and smile and make her dreams come true. Make it really special for her. Have flowers waiting at the bridal shop at her dress fitting. Send her “thinking of you” notes – I prefer snail mail. Or just surprise her with something special. And don’t forget to have fun!!

So make merry with your special ladies as this is a once in a lifetime celebration!!

Wedding Planning Financial Advice

0 · Oct 18, 2013 ·

A couple weeks ago Credit Card Insider published a list of financial advice for newly engaged couples. I was asked to contribute my tips and advice to couples, along with past brides and other wedding professionals. Money can be a huge stress factor when it comes to the wedding planning process, and while they just shared one little blurb of what I had to say, here’s little more insight.

Finances are a big part of planning a wedding and often a subject that couples don’t even know how to begin to approach (Umm… Mom? Dad? Can I get a little help here?!). Normally I say that the very first step in wedding planning is setting a budget (and sticking to it!!), but I have started to shift a little from that. It doesn’t do a couple much good to set of budget of say $5,000 when they’re planning on inviting 300 guests and there isn’t a caterer in the area that will provide dinner for under $25 a plate. You’ve just blown through that budget and haven’t even fed everyone! So the budget must be realistic for your wedding market. Do a little research and find out what you should generally expect wedding vendors to cost.

Then set your budget and stick to it!

The engagement period leading up to your wedding can be a highly stressful time. You are embarking upon this journey together, planning the start of your ‘happily ever after’ and on top of that there’s money being spent in every which direction. So keep track of your spending. Many couples choose to open a special bank account used just for the wedding purchases, and when the money’s gone they are forced to stop spending.

If your budget allows, hire a wedding planner or designer who will help you come up with a cohesive and fabulous scheme for your wedding day. By having a plan (think blueprints or roadmap for your wedding) you can eliminate the urge to impulse buy. All the details you need are all written in black and white which alleviates that temptation to change your mind because you saw something cute on Pinterest. In addition, your wedding planner will help you stay accountable to your purchases. They can help you ensure you’re spending your money where it will have the biggest impact – you’ll get more bang for your buck!

The last thing on earth you want to do is go into debt financing your wedding. Know your limits. If the budget is tight, consider having a small and simple dinner party to celebrate or perhaps just a cocktail reception. Stick with what you’re comfortable with and not what others expect of you, unless of course, they’re chipping in to help foot the bill.

And have fun planning!

Photo by the fabulous Shannon Scott {Smug Shots}

My Sock Bun Hits the Ceiling!!

0 · Oct 11, 2013 ·

I rarely wear my hair up. And if I do it’s one of those super-messy, spur-of-the-moment, I-HAVE-to-get-my-hair-off-my-neck situations. I have this really weird thing about my neck and showing off my ears, anyway, so NOT the point of this post (I’m just quirky and don’t like my hair up – enough said).

In addition to being the pre-wedding coordinator and event designer for my sister’s wedding, I have the added bonus of also being the maid of honor. I am so super excited about this and about her, and it is truly an honor to be a part of her dream day in such a big way. It is also my duty as a bridesmaid to be an awesome MOH and realize that it’s her day, and things will be done her way. Perfect.

But she thinks she wants the girls to wear their hair up. So as a good older sister and bridesmaid I’ve begun experimenting with how I can wear my hair up and keep both of us happy. The ever so popular sock bun has come into play. I love the look of a giant, sophisticated and neat bun. I would still get big hair, but it wouldn’t be messy. Yes, I thought this might be the perfect solution.

I rocked it for a couple days. And then I got in my car.

Now, I’m not going to go off on a tangent about how cars were clearly designed by bald men who have no appreciation of a greatly teased head of hair. However, the frustration of having to lean my seat back and slouch while driving is great. It might even be classified as a safety risk. But of course as a female, I tend to put beauty before safety, oops.

When I drive my Tahoe, it’s not an issue. I have since told my husband that I will no longer be driving the car. He rolled his eyes and switched keys.

What I am wondering is, how are you brides with fabulous up-dos being transported to your ceremony location or who’s driving you home from the salon? Are you going to have to be crammed in a car or do you have a luxurious SUV of some sort? Or perhaps your stylist is coming to you (which I highly recommend). Am I just being crazy?? Maybe others don’t really have this concern… Maybe I just like my hair too big!!

The above image is from here. And you’ll also learn how to achieve this look yourself!!

Just the thoughts going through my head on the beautiful Friday morning! Have a great weekend!!

Cover Those {Table} Legs!!

0 · Sep 12, 2013 ·

Can we just talk about linens for a moment? I just received three new gorgeous and sparkly new swatches in the mail and I could not be more excited. I have stacks of sample books on my dining room table and sometimes I wander through JoAnn Fabrics just to find new and pretty patterns – most of which, sadly, I will never use. But somehow just knowing they exist puts me more at ease.

So why do I like linens and fabric so much? I believe the perfect linen can make or break an event. I know it sounds silly, but people really underestimate the impact they have in a space. It breaks my heart a little each time I hear a couple say they’re just using the venue’s or caterer’s standard (short), square tablecloths on the round tables. Does a square linen on a round table even make sense? And what about those NAKED table legs??? If it’s a budget issue, then I can completely understand, I don’t want people to spend money they don’t have. And let’s face it, free square linens are better than NO linens. However, when it’s not a budget issue, that’s when I have to hold back the dramatic gasp and keep myself from crying out “WHY??”

There’s a reason we all go gaga over inspiration galleries full of linens dripping with sequins or bursting with bold modern patterns, it’s because they make such a huge statement. This is yet another place to show off your fabulous style. Just like your luscious blooms you so painstakingly selected, they add more texture and design to the space.

These are some of the lines I would love to incorporate into your event some day!!

Just something to think about on the lovely Thursday morning! Enjoy your day 😉

The Wedding Ceremony

0 · Aug 15, 2013 ·

Photo by Shannon Scott {Smug Shots}

Tuesday morning I dug head first into some ceremony details and timelines for my August couple. As I looked through the specifics of the service, I could not help but feel overwhelmingly excited. Seriously. There was love displayed on that page!

Now we’ve all been to the wedding ceremony that seems to never end, with rows full of antsy guests secretly wishing they’d just say “I do” already. On the other hand, I experienced the shortest wedding ceremony of life earlier this summer – the guests didn’t even have time to sit down! The wedding party made their way down the aisle, the couple said some quick vows, kissed and now they are husband and wife.

Honestly, before planning my own wedding, I wasn’t even sure what a wedding ceremony should entail, or how long it should last. Is there a right or wrong answer?

The ceremony portion of a wedding is a very personal, intimate celebration. It is an outward showing of a commitment between two people. Some people choose to make this a largely celebrated and lighthearted affair, while others keep things on a more serious note since it is such a major commitment.

The average wedding ceremony is approximately 30 minutes long. Typical ceremonies include details such as the seating of the grandparents and parents, the bridal processional, a word of welcome and declaration of intent, the VOWS, the exchanging of rings, lighting of the unity candle and then the introduction of the new Mr. & Mrs… swoon!

However, variations do occur. Some couples choose to write their own vows, which is a great personalized addition. The unity candle is often replaced with something else, such as sand or tying knots, or skipped all together. You might consider adding cultural elements and other religions also have significant pieces to their ceremonies. Couples may choose to have a biblical or other reading, or a special song sung – or perhaps the guest might even join in with a traditional hymn!

So my greatest advice would be to do what makes you happy. Make your ceremony memorable and personal. Focus on what the ceremony actually means and is representing, a love and commitment to last a lifetime.

Little Sister Getting Married!! {Weekend Update}

0 · Aug 5, 2013 ·

Oh hello Monday… so glad you’re here for another busy week! But before I start on the busy week ahead, I just must share how much fun this past weekend was.

While my sister and I have been collaborating and doing much of her wedding planning from afar (she lives on the east side of the state), it was so nice to have her visit and put so many of our plans into action! We scratched countless items off the planning list this weekend and I am unbelievable excited about how this whole celebration is coming together. A couple weeks ago I wrote a post about how long it takes to plan a wedding and in her case, she could get married next month no problem (In case you don’t remember, she was engaged mid-June so that’d be 3 month engagement!).

Her dress is breathtaking, her venue filled with classic architecture and natural light and the design plan just fits together so perfectly. Linens have been selected, invitations created and floral needs have been decided. And the cake (or should I say cakes), I am so excited about, but maybe that’s just my sweet tooth talking!

Upon leaving, I could see the disappointment in her face as most of the fun details have been found and put into place, so now what? No worries, there’s still plenty to do and the holidays will be here before you know it!

Have a great week!

And this cake picture? It’s just a sneak peek at some of the inspiration behind her gorgeous cake table. We found it on Pinterest (where else??), but I believe the original was created by Connie Cupcake.

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